So….
July 9, 2009My grandmother wrote me an e-mail the other day that was so mean and manipulating and rude and full of lies that I was appalled. So I talked to the therapist about it and she had some suggestions. So I e-mailed her a long letter letting it all out, all my thoughts on how she talks to me, how she treats me and what she writes me. I got a letter from her this morning apologizing for everything so I guess it’s ok now. We’ll have to see if her attitude towards me has really changed or if she is lying to me just trying to make me happy.
In other news Derek is starting to stand on his own, right now it’s just a couple seconds at a time but it’s a start. He will be 8 months old on Friday and I’m guessing he will be walking by 9 months or a little after.
And today was his first success at drinking from a straw. I was drinking my soda and he kept grabbing for the straw so I let him have the drink so he could suck on the straw. He has never actually got anything through the straw before, though he has tried, and this time he ended up with a mouthful of ice cold coke. It surprised him and he spit it out then coughed. When we got home I pulled out his sippy cup with the straw and put a little juice in it and a lot of water and he is currently sitting happily on the floor drinking from the cup and not spitting it out. I’m so happy! I’m still breastfeeding him but I plan on weaning him at a year to regular milk and today’s achievement will go a long way to making that possible.
Lindsey still is at mom’s house and she is starting up all the bad habits that we worked so hard to rid her of. Like her constantly bingeing, laying in bed all day playing video games, not showering or brushing her teeth. In the 2 months she has been there she has gained almost 15 pounds and smells nasty. And she still hates me. She won’t let mom come over by herself but when they are here she claims that she is bored and wants to leave and of course mom says ok and they go. It’s very frustrating. I’m ready to give up. Everything that we worked so hard for with her has disapeared and no one but Bishop and I seem to give a shit. It sucks.
Your grandma sounds like my mother. What is with these old crazy women??????????
Why isn’t your mom disciplining Lindsey? I can’t believe how hard you guys worked, only to have your mom undoing it all.
No, she isn’t disciplining her. Our new concept is consequences, like if you do this you have a good consequence but if you don’t do it you have a bad consequence. It’s not working. When she lived with us we never had to actually punish her, threaten, yes, we did that a lot but she would do what we asked and that would be it, no punishment needed. Mom told me yesterday that the night before they got into a huge fight because mom asked Lin to brush her teeth. The fight lasted an hour and the teeth didn’t get brushed. We had similar arguments here but they would end up with her brushing her teeth, or at least rinsing with mouthwash. I guess I don’t understand why mom isn’t pushing for this stuff harder.